Wednesday, July 2, 2014

You can't win an argument.

;)
Quote :
"...I have come to the conclusion that there is only 1 way under high heaven TO GET THE BEST OF AN ARGUMENT - AND THAT IS TO AVOID IT. "

You can't win an argument.
You can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.
Why?
Well, suppose you triumph over the other man.
Then what? You will feel fine.
But, what about him?
You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph.
And - ???
In an article in Bits and Pieces..
some suggestions are made on HOW TO KEEP THE DISAGREEMENT FROM BECOMING AN ARGUMENT:
> Welcome the disagreement.
> Distrust your first istinctive impression.
> Control your temper.
> Listen first.
> Look for areas of agreement.
> Be honest.
> Promise to think over your opponents' ideas & study them carefully.
> Thank your opponent sincerely for their interest.
> Postpone action - to give both sides time to think through the problem.

9 comments:

  1. nice tips dr.shikin. kadang-kadang tak guna menegakkan benang yang basah.

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  2. mostly susah nak avoid agrument.

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  3. kadangkala orang lebih suka berbalah dari mengelakkannya.

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    1. Azman rajin komen tapi saya x reti pulak nak komen kat awak sebab blog awak sume segment & giveaway je. Hehe..

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  4. Hmmm... Sy suka diam je... Mls nk bertekak..

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  5. kalau saya betul saya akan lawan

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  6. ikut mood..kalau larat, go on. kalau tak..diam je..wat tak tahu..or dengar saja..bila dah habis..baru luah. tah la..saya jenis malas bertekak..tengok orang juga..

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  7. Menang menjadi arang, kalah menjadi abu -,-"

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