Sunday, June 29, 2014

He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.

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Why talk about what we want?
That is childish. Absured. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. Tapi, orang lain tak interested pun.
Sumeorang pun same : WE ARE INTERESTED IN WHAT WE WANT.
So, hanya 1 jalan untuk pengaruhi orang lain adalah dengan bercakap apa yang mereka mahu  & tunjukkan pada mereka bagaimana mendapatkannya.
Cth 1:
You don’t want your children to smoke – Don’t preach at them & don’t talk about what you want. But show them that cigarettes may keep them from winning in basketball.
Cth2:
1 hari seorang bapa & anaknya nak masukkan seekor anak lembu ke dalam kandang tapi anak lembu tu taknak. Jadi, si bapa pun tolak anak lembu tu, sementara si anak menariknya. Tapi, anak lembu keraskan kaki tetap taknak masuk kandang.
SEBENARNYA DORANG NI BUAT COMMON MISTAKES – OF THINKING ONLY OF WHAT THEY WANTED. Dan anak lembu pun buat benda yang same iaitu THINKING ONLY WHAT HE WANTED.
Seorang pembantu perempuan nampak kejadian tu. Dan die ada calf sense. SHE THOUGHT OF WHAT THE CALF WANTED – jadi die pun masukkan jari dalam mulut anak lembu & biarkan ia hisap sambil perlahan-lahan masukkan anak lembu ke kandang.
Cth3:
Seorang bapa baru pulang dari kerja & mendapati anaknya meraung-raung di dalam rumah sebab takmo start kindergarten the next day. Pada mulanya, bapa dah nak naik berang & nak paksa si anak supaya pergi tadika jugak. Tapi, bila dipikirkan..cara tu tak membantu pun. So, bapa duduk & mula berfikir, “ If I were Adam, apa yang akan buat aku excited nak pergi tadika?” Si bapa & ibu mula list down sume bende menarik yang mungkin akan buat Adam excited. So, dorang mulakan dengan FINGER-PAINTING sambil berseronok-seronok. Adam pulak mula mengintai. Lepas tu mula merayu untuk join dorang. “ Oh, no! You have to go to kindergarten first to learn how to finger-paint.” Lepas tu bagitaulah semua keseronokan yang dia akan dapat di kindergarten.
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 Cukuplah 3 contoh kan?
Sumber: Buku How To Win Friends & Influence People –m/s 32-35
(selepas diolah & dibahasa melayukan olehku – cerita dia meleret, so aku dan ‘concise’kan).
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TOMORROW YOU MAY WANT TO PERSUADE SOMEBODY TO DO SOMETHING.
Before you speak, pause & ask yourself: “ How can I make this person want to do it?”


11 comments:

  1. Lovely Quote Shikin. "Before you speak, pause & ask yourself: “ How can I make this person want to do it?”

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  2. Thanx RDZ Z & Azman.
    ** Rajin betul Azman drop comment. Memang unexpected....sooooo many than I ever
    imagine. Neway, thanx pada u olzzz sebab non-stop support saya :)

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    1. hehehe terima kasih kembali untuk dr shikin

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  3. wah... menarik ni. ^^,

    kadang-kadang tu susah juga bila nak fikir apa yang orang tu nak. tapi tu la kan.. kat sini lah kita nak belajar reverse psychology. saya minat betul dengan benda-benda macam ni.

    thanks for the great info :)

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  4. kekadang susah nak pengaruhi orang kalau tak memahami pe yg dorang nak. kalau bebudak boleh pujuk ngn coklat. haha

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  5. nice one..oh oh, btw, tq k.shikin..hadiah giveaway ramadhan aritu dah dapat..thanx ye, sori lambat inform..sbb parcel ada kt rumah jiran..kna pegi pickup sendiri..rumah xde mailbox..I is segan..hehe..thank you. ;)

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  6. sukalah ayat yg last tu.. "Before you speak, pause & ask yourself: “ How can I make this person want to do it?”" :)

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